It is great being married to a Proverbs 31 wife. It is great being married to a Thirty-One Gifts Senior Director, too. She has blessed our family and our marriage with what she does. That said, I know that there are men out there concerned about what having a Thirty-One wife means for their marriage. The short answer is: It will be an enormous blessing, if you let it.
What do you mean, Ed? Well, let’s start at the beginning. You are married.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” ~Genesis 2:18 NLT
Being married is great. It should be great. Your wife should complete you and make you feel whole. But this isn’t about YOU.
[B]e filled with the Holy Spirit, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. …For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. …So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. ~ Ephesians 5 NLT (excerpt)
There you go. You are a husband. You have a job to do. You are to LOVE your wife. No ifs, no buts, no conditions, no exceptions. It is not dependent on how she acts to you or how you feel. You are to love her the way Christ loved His church. And He died for His church. For a lot of guys that’s the EASY part. It appeals to our macho side to think of dying to save our family in some heroic gesture. If you can die for your wife, can you live for her? Loving your spouse with your life means service.
After washing their feet, he put on his robe again and sat down and asked, “Do you understand what I was doing? You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and you are right, because that’s what I am. And since I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you. I tell you the truth, slaves are not greater than their master. Nor is the messenger more important than the one who sends the message. Now that you know these things, God will bless you for doing them. ~ John 13 NLT (excerpt)
Washing someone’s feet in those times was the lowliest act of service imaginable. They wore leather sandals and walked dirt roads everywhere they went. Feet and sandals were ripe! If Jesus Christ can show love through that disgusting and demeaning act of service, what excuse do you have for not serving your wife?
Cook dinner for the family. Get the kids ready for bed. Do some laundry. Help load the car when she’s headed off to do a Thirty-One party. Make a run to the Post Office or to make some deliveries for her. Make it a team effort.
Most importantly: Don’t keep score. You are not earning a debt she has to repay. You are serving. Jesus died for you while you were still a sinner. He died a death He didn’t deserve to satisfy a debt you couldn’t pay. Be glad He doesn’t keep score.
If you faithfully, prayerfully, Biblically serve your wife and support her in her endeavor to be the best Thirty-One consultant she can be, I promise you that your marriage and your life will be blessed.