There is a generation of men brought up to think that if they go to work, earn a paycheck and come home, then they’ve done their part as the man of the family. They’ve “put meat on the table,” as it were. That grossly undervalues and abdicates a man’s vital role in his family. Are you a cow or a husband?
If you limit your role as a husband to being simply a provider, you are a cow. A cow provides — it provides milk and it provides meat. A husband is something more.
Husband – noun1 a male partner in a marriage2 stewardHusband – verb1 to manage prudently and with care
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage. No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. ~ Ephesians 5:25-33, The Message