This is Leah. Leah is in 3rd grade. Leah can communicate very effectively to her dad what she is thinking about him without even saying a word.
The conventional wisdom already makes clear that “communication is key” in a marriage, and it is. But I think a lot of spouses overlook the fact that communication is more than talking. In fact, sometimes our actions can say the opposite of our words.
You would probably never tell your spouse that you think they’re stupid, that they’re no fun to be around, that they’re not attractive, or that you don’t respect their interests or talents. Your actions, inattention, body language, sarcasm, criticism and absence can say all these things and worse. Give some thought today to what you’re saying to your spouse without words. How can you express without words that they are respected, admired, fun to be with, desired, valued and LOVED?
Too funny. I’m so glad Emily quickly figured out (1) how to get them free, and (2) how to make money sharing these great products with others.
Jesus says the greatest commandments are to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself. I may have a pretty good idea what #3 is*:
I’m pretty good.
I don’t say that as a brag. In a weird way, I mean that to point out something I lack: true gratitude for the grace and forgiveness I’ve received through Christ. I’d bet your experience is much like mine. Many of the most passionate Christians I know are those who were some of the worst sinners before they knew Jesus. The gratitude they have for the forgiveness they’ve received, and the work that Christ has done to bring them from where they used to be is powerful. I don’t have that.
Different churches have different forms of wedding ceremony. In some, the groom repeats lines like these:
I take you to be my wife;
and I promise,
before God and these witnesses,
to be your loving and faithful husband;
in plenty and in want;
in joy and in sorrow;
in sickness and in health;
as long as we both shall live.
In others, the pastor asks a series of questions and the groom answers, “I will.”
Will you have this woman to be your wife, to live together in holy matrimony?
Will you love her, comfort her, honor her, and keep her, in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?
Some weddings have the participants write their own vows.
Regardless of the precise wording there is one noticeable absence. No “if”s. Continue reading
We are in the midst of the Lenten season between Ash Wednesday and Easter. Coming from a Protestant tradition, that hasn’t meant much to me over the years. Even if it did, I don’t get drunk, I don’t smoke, I’ve been on a diet since March 2013, so I didn’t have anything to give up for Lent anyway. Or so I thought. Continue reading
You probably know the “love” chapter in 1 Corinthians 13. “Love is patient, love is kind…” It’s a great definition of all that love aspires to be. But I was struck today by something else Paul was getting at.
Love is an essential ingredient to EVERYTHING we do.
This is the hardest letter I’ve ever had to write. It’s not you. It’s me. We’ve been together as long as I can remember. Those high school and college years… whew… the passion was amazing. But we’re just in different places now. I’ve settled down. I’ve got to reassess my priorities. And let’s face it: you won’t miss me. You’ve got plenty of other guys. Can we just be friends? Continue reading
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Emily thinks I’m lazy. OK, not all the time, and not in all areas of life. But some things she cares about being done “right,” whereas I am… unconcerned. My spiritual gift may be the ability to be contented in all circumstances.
Our formerly manicured and tended backyard is currently returning to a more natural, almost feral state. I tend to allow things around my office to run out, be broken (or if they must work, be jerry-rigged), and do without. And why not? Besides the obvious downside of an irritated wife, I submit (somewhat tongue-in-cheek) that being content with our current state of affairs is Biblical. Continue reading